Tuesday, June 8, 2010
MERLOT Information
MERLOT Resources:
Global Violence Prevention
www.globalvp.umn.edu/cgi-bin/index.pl
National Criminal Justice Reference Service (NCJRS) - Family Violence
www.ncjrs.gov/spotlight/family_violence/summary.html
Teen Pregnancy & Dating Violence
When Teen Pregnancy Is No Accident - NPR
Article - 5/27/2010
Article - 5/27/2010
www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=127209931
A Memoir Of Domestic Violence And 'Crazy Love'
NPR - Author Leslie Morgan Steiner of "Crazy Love"
8 min. 19 sec. Interview
www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=102661841
What can school personnel do to help?
What we can do in the schools:
At Tier 1:
~Develop educational presentations for the schools so children learn that it is not okay for adults in their family to hurt them or to hurt other adults, that they should tell someone they can trust about it, and to call 911 if that is happening.
~Educate staff about dating violence, not everyone knows what this is! Incorporate peer education, more students can be reached this way.
~The best time to target universal knowledge about dating violence is during middle school, kids have not yet established a dating pattern, there is still time to intervene.
~Keep parents involved, educate them too and let them know what their children are learning.
~Train teachers to identify children who may be in a domestic violence situation and help teachers learn ways to address the issue.
~Develop coordinated efforts of schools, churches, community organizations, and the social welfare system so that all are working toward preventing domestic violence and keeping victims and their children safe.
At Tier 2:
~Identify assess and support within non -specialist services – health, education, early years, housing management.
~Make it clear to at-risk students that you are approachable and nonjudgmental.
~Create a domestic violence response team made up of school personnel with specialized training in conducting in-depth assessments, safety planning, making appropriate community referrals, and facilitating linkages with appropriate services.
~Develop and implement a policy whereby, at the parent’s request, a dated note is placed in the student’s record indicating that the parent wishes to be informed if the abusive parent contacts the school or comes into or near the school.
At Tier 3:
~Offer counseling and support services for those involved in violent or abusive relationships, make these sessions interactive.
~Collaborate with parents who have restraining orders and help them meet the safety needs of themselves and their children.
~Through individual or group work, help children make sense of any unresolved trauma and learn ways to stay safe and build non-violent relationships. Such services should also work with non-abusing parents to build their capacity to help their children to understand and come to terms with the abuse they have suffered; they also enable them to regain confidence to resume their role as a parent.
~Create counseling groups for students who are victims of domestic or dating violence. Groups decrease isolation and increase youth's openness.
~Always use research-based programs.
~Listen with empathy rather than giving advice.
~Do not force victims to tell parents or legal authorities about dating violence.
It is better to help the victim explore advantages and disadvantages.
~Develop safety plans for use if violence occurs again and is imminent.
At Tier 1:
~Develop educational presentations for the schools so children learn that it is not okay for adults in their family to hurt them or to hurt other adults, that they should tell someone they can trust about it, and to call 911 if that is happening.
~Educate staff about dating violence, not everyone knows what this is! Incorporate peer education, more students can be reached this way.
~The best time to target universal knowledge about dating violence is during middle school, kids have not yet established a dating pattern, there is still time to intervene.
~Keep parents involved, educate them too and let them know what their children are learning.
~Train teachers to identify children who may be in a domestic violence situation and help teachers learn ways to address the issue.
~Develop coordinated efforts of schools, churches, community organizations, and the social welfare system so that all are working toward preventing domestic violence and keeping victims and their children safe.
At Tier 2:
~Identify assess and support within non -specialist services – health, education, early years, housing management.
~Make it clear to at-risk students that you are approachable and nonjudgmental.
~Create a domestic violence response team made up of school personnel with specialized training in conducting in-depth assessments, safety planning, making appropriate community referrals, and facilitating linkages with appropriate services.
~Develop and implement a policy whereby, at the parent’s request, a dated note is placed in the student’s record indicating that the parent wishes to be informed if the abusive parent contacts the school or comes into or near the school.
At Tier 3:
~Offer counseling and support services for those involved in violent or abusive relationships, make these sessions interactive.
~Collaborate with parents who have restraining orders and help them meet the safety needs of themselves and their children.
~Through individual or group work, help children make sense of any unresolved trauma and learn ways to stay safe and build non-violent relationships. Such services should also work with non-abusing parents to build their capacity to help their children to understand and come to terms with the abuse they have suffered; they also enable them to regain confidence to resume their role as a parent.
~Create counseling groups for students who are victims of domestic or dating violence. Groups decrease isolation and increase youth's openness.
~Always use research-based programs.
~Listen with empathy rather than giving advice.
~Do not force victims to tell parents or legal authorities about dating violence.
It is better to help the victim explore advantages and disadvantages.
~Develop safety plans for use if violence occurs again and is imminent.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Same-Sex Domestic Violence Myths
AARDVARC
8 Same-Sex Domestic Violence Myths
1. Only straight women get battered. Men are not victims of domestic violence, and women never batter.
2. Domestic violence is more common in straight relationships than it is in same-sex relationship
3. It really isn't violence when a same-sex couple fights. It's just a lover's quarrel, a fair fight between equals.
4. It isn't violence when gay men fight. It's boys being boys. A man should be able to defend himself.
5. The batterer is always bigger, stronger, more "butch", etc. Victims will always be smaller, weaker, more feminine.
6. Lesbian and gay domestic violence is sexual behavior, a version of S & M. The victim actually likes it.
7. The law does not and will not protect victims of same sex domestic violence.
8. It is easier for lesbian or gay victims to leave the abusive relationship than it is for heterosexual battered women who are married.
The rates of domestic violence in same-gender relationships is roughly the same as domestic violence against heterosexual women.
8 Same-Sex Domestic Violence Myths
1. Only straight women get battered. Men are not victims of domestic violence, and women never batter.
2. Domestic violence is more common in straight relationships than it is in same-sex relationship
3. It really isn't violence when a same-sex couple fights. It's just a lover's quarrel, a fair fight between equals.
4. It isn't violence when gay men fight. It's boys being boys. A man should be able to defend himself.
5. The batterer is always bigger, stronger, more "butch", etc. Victims will always be smaller, weaker, more feminine.
6. Lesbian and gay domestic violence is sexual behavior, a version of S & M. The victim actually likes it.
7. The law does not and will not protect victims of same sex domestic violence.
8. It is easier for lesbian or gay victims to leave the abusive relationship than it is for heterosexual battered women who are married.
The rates of domestic violence in same-gender relationships is roughly the same as domestic violence against heterosexual women.
Illinois Law
Illinois Domestic Violence Act
Under Illinois law, family or household members are defined as:
-Those related by blood
-People married or used to be married
-Anyone who share or used to share a home, apartment, or other common dwelling
-People who have or allegedly have a child in common or a blood relationship through a child in common
-Those who are dating, engaged, or used to date, including same sex couples
-People with disabilities and their personal assistants
Under Illinois law, family or household members are defined as:
-Those related by blood
-People married or used to be married
-Anyone who share or used to share a home, apartment, or other common dwelling
-People who have or allegedly have a child in common or a blood relationship through a child in common
-Those who are dating, engaged, or used to date, including same sex couples
-People with disabilities and their personal assistants
Order of Protection
Illinois Attorney General
Ways you can obtain an order of protection:
-Ask your attorney to file in civil court
-Request an order with your divorce
-Request an order during a criminal trial for abuse
-Go to your local circuit court clerk's office
-Contact a local domestic violence program to ask for assistance in completing the forms
Law enforcement prevention of further abuse:
-Arresting abuser when appropriate and completing a police report
-Driving or arranging transportation for you to a medical facility, shelter, or safe place
-Taking you home to get belongings
-Taking weapons if probable cause
-Explaining the importance of saving evidence such as damaged clothing or property and taking photographs of injuries or damage
Violation of an Order of Protection:
-1st Offense: Class A misdemeanor - abuser could go to jail up to 1 year and pay a $25 fine
-2nd Offense: Can be a felony, courts must sentence abuser to 24 hours jail time and $100 fine
Ways you can obtain an order of protection:
-Ask your attorney to file in civil court
-Request an order with your divorce
-Request an order during a criminal trial for abuse
-Go to your local circuit court clerk's office
-Contact a local domestic violence program to ask for assistance in completing the forms
Law enforcement prevention of further abuse:
-Arresting abuser when appropriate and completing a police report
-Driving or arranging transportation for you to a medical facility, shelter, or safe place
-Taking you home to get belongings
-Taking weapons if probable cause
-Explaining the importance of saving evidence such as damaged clothing or property and taking photographs of injuries or damage
Violation of an Order of Protection:
-1st Offense: Class A misdemeanor - abuser could go to jail up to 1 year and pay a $25 fine
-2nd Offense: Can be a felony, courts must sentence abuser to 24 hours jail time and $100 fine
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